The sib-lationship: Maintenance is Key

So my baby sister recently turned 18. She also started campus and is well on her way to independence. She has come very far and I hope she succeeds beyond any measure in the years to come, inshallah. What I am struggling to understand though is the general response from people who hear how close we are, of insisting I give her a lot more space now.

Why?

Why is it seen as such a bad thing if you’re close to your younger siblings and do not want to completely break away? If anything, as the older one who knows how difficult it is without someone at your side to share both good and bad, one would think that people are more inclined to offer that “elders” wealth of knowledge, as support.

I mean don’t get me wrong, I give her plenty space. Over the years I have come to realise that she (and my other siblings) are not as available as they used to be because the reality is that they build their own lives, away from us. Like us, they too have a network of friends which they have nurtured from school, work and friends.

But…

These lives are not mutually exclusive!

Just because we all have our own lives, does not mean that our lives with our siblings, children or parents should suddenly falter. No way José! Every day I hear about how parents (and older siblings) give way or let go of the relationship they built with their bundle of joy and then cry about how distant they have become, or not being the one being approached for critical advice.

I say, think about it like this… you grow up with someone, build a relationship with them, watch them progress through the schooling system. Sure, they have built in the world, for themselves, away from yo does not have to exclude you altogether

It’s a necessary part of life, I’d say…for 2 reasons:

  1. Protection: Protection against anything in life. The world is full of both good and evil and your place is to shield them from the evil of the world. Once they fall, you should be there to pick them up…and then fuck the person up, who pushed them!
  2. Friendship: You have built a relationship over their entire lifetime. You’ve fought with them shouted at them, laughed with them, shared secret jokes, the list is endless. Good friends are hard to find and what better friend than your own blood?

There are so many people walking around who, due to some reason or other, do not have any ties to their families. If you have a relationship with your family, then cherish it. Life waits on nobody!

I’ve added some pictures of myself with Maaj, below and a few others 😉 Obviously now that she’s got an “image” to uphold, I don’t think she would appreciate my posting any baby pictures of her looking less than perfect. (Maybe Ill save that for when her wedding day ;))

Do enjoy 🙂

Thank you for reading.

ToxicSweety over and out!


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Maaj as a Babsy

Maaj as a Babsy. This is how I wll always remember her 😉

Maaj as a Babsy (2 years)

Maaj as a Babsy (2 years). Honestly the cutest Gamiet baby ever!

Maaj at around 8 years old. Beware that look, bru!

Maaj at around 8 years old. Beware that look, bru!

Maaj at around 8 years old. Beware that look, bru!

Maaj at around 8 years old. Beware that look, bru!

Yayyyy. Over the shoulder posing.

Yayyyy. Over the shoulder posing.

Flashback Selfies at 8 years old already :)

Flashback Selfies at 8 years old already 🙂

Flashback Selfies at 8 years old already :)

Flashback Selfies at 8 years old already 🙂

Maaj at around 9 years old. LOL!

Maaj at around 9 years old. LOL!

Maaj at High School

Maaj at High School

16 years old, playing piano at concerts

Fresh fringe for me

Fresh fringe for me 

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Lipstick selfies (17 years old)

Lipstick selfies (17 years old)

Selfies in the car again.

Selfies in the car again.

Watch out coz we be rolling, rolling, rolling.

Watch out coz we be rolling, rolling, rolling. 

Peace out, mense!

Peace out, mense!

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Authored by Fowzia Gamiet, ToxicSweety's Pensieve is a written montage of memories, experiences and anything current and newsworthy. Taken from the Harry Potter series specifically "Goblet of Fire" a "pensieve" is a magical repository for memories. I always love hearing from readers of my blog, so please leave your memory/ comment on ToxicSweety's Pensieve. Enjoy!

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2 comments on “The sib-lationship: Maintenance is Key
  1. Has it been that long ago I saw ur family…last saw ur baby sister between photo 2 & 3 I think!

    Anyway good piece. We grow with our younger siblings too. Not just them growing up with u. They also r brought up by u, the older sibling, as they learn from u things ur parents can’t or won’t teach them.

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