So my baby sister recently turned 18. She also started campus and is well on her way to independence. She has come very far and I hope she succeeds beyond any measure in the years to come, inshallah. What I am struggling to understand though is the general response from people who hear how close we are, of insisting I give her a lot more space now.
Why is it seen as such a bad thing if you’re close to your younger siblings and do not want to completely break away? If anything, as the older one who knows how difficult it is without someone at your side to share both good and bad, one would think that people are more inclined to offer that “elders” wealth of knowledge, as support.
I mean don’t get me wrong, I give her plenty space. Over the years I have come to realise that she (and my other siblings) are not as available as they used to be because the reality is that they build their own lives, away from us. Like us, they too have a network of friends which they have nurtured from school, work and friends.
These lives are not mutually exclusive!
Just because we all have our own lives, does not mean that our lives with our siblings, children or parents should suddenly falter. No way José! Every day I hear about how parents (and older siblings) give way or let go of the relationship they built with their bundle of joy and then cry about how distant they have become, or not being the one being approached for critical advice.
I say, think about it like this… you grow up with someone, build a relationship with them, watch them progress through the schooling system. Sure, they have built in the world, for themselves, away from yo does not have to exclude you altogether
It’s a necessary part of life, I’d say…for 2 reasons:
- Protection: Protection against anything in life. The world is full of both good and evil and your place is to shield them from the evil of the world. Once they fall, you should be there to pick them up…and then fuck the person up, who pushed them!
- Friendship: You have built a relationship over their entire lifetime. You’ve fought with them shouted at them, laughed with them, shared secret jokes, the list is endless. Good friends are hard to find and what better friend than your own blood?
There are so many people walking around who, due to some reason or other, do not have any ties to their families. If you have a relationship with your family, then cherish it. Life waits on nobody!
I’ve added some pictures of myself with Maaj, below and a few others 😉 Obviously now that she’s got an “image” to uphold, I don’t think she would appreciate my posting any baby pictures of her looking less than perfect. (Maybe Ill save that for when her wedding day ;))
Do enjoy 🙂
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